Sour-Assed Angry Ingrates

I've reached the age when I can eat two desserts a day or Pavlova for breakfast if I want, according to someone who is much, much older and wiser than I am. No problem there then. I've also reached the age when I remember how unwelcome comments from men, if not accepted in the way they wanted, brought responses that no-one would want to hear. Remember those of you who are old enough, the way they used to bleat "It's only a joke!" or alternatively "Sour-assed Bitch!"
It seems we have reached that point in adoptionland. The non adoptees who think it amusing to name a blog  Iwantadumpsterbaby  and believe they are sensitive and know what it means to be alone- does she really know what 'spazzy' means?  Those who find this hilarious and it gives them a good laugh every day - just search for adopted jokes and you'll find more tasteless and offensive 'jokes' than you can imagine.When we don't find these jokes amusing we are taking ourselves too seriously, should get over it and learn to laugh at ourselves.

and this, unless you're a LDA, although I'm waiting for feedback on that one LDA's.

Then there are the adoptees who don't. Sour-assed Bitches or people who see the others as adoptist, tasteless and letting all their prejudices, fears and hang-ups hang out. There's adoptee humour too, at sites like bastards, strictly adoptees only and some of it offensive to others.
The perfect joke doesn't upset anyone, isn't racist, adoptist, disablist, sexist, adultist and is funny! Hard to find?...you bet!! Jokes are serious, usually about stereotypes and helping to make majority groups comfortable at the expense of others.

Is it any wonder we get angry about what happens in adoptionland at times? Not about our adoptions, many of us have come to terms with that or are in the process of doing so; although most of us a realistic enough to know there will always be triggers, upsets, grief and aloneness at times. But about the insensitivity and crassness of others who don't think, don't care or who are deliberately vindictive and punishing - why? For the very reason that they don't understand, do not try to understand or think they know better. So easy to dismiss us in a few simple words - bitter, ungrateful, angry -

Amanda has an excellent post here on the Tall Order for Adoptive Parents: How simple is the justice of truth? How simple is this than the alternative of adoptee-bashing and the griping that adoptees just aren't "nice enough" about the things they have thus far been powerless over in their own lives?

 You can rant and rave and post ridiculous cartoons of Asian children all you want.

Thank you Anonymous I will!

Have a fun day!!